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Courage & Rude Values

When I was a teen, the basic height of porn at the 'social acceptance' level was a Playboy, Playgirl, Penthouse and Hustler magazines ---and the height of what was considered to be 'courageous' was working up the nerve to get the copy in hand. I grew up in a small'ish to medium town where everyone knew each other's business and pretty much anything you did got back to your parents and discipline was quick to surface and direct.

The entire thing back then was more a high school "soul changing" experience than base debasement. After our military-style clandestine sneaky buy and a long trek out into the wide open fields where snooping eyes couldn't achieve, my girlfriends and I giggled with our hands over our mouths looking over the pages of the naked men playing tennis or golf with their mischievous male-bits obscured out. Don't roll your eyes, it was the 1980's and we thought we were really cool. :)

These days, hard porn [and much worse] is only a quick click away on their computers or phones and as a parent it is really concerning what young curious minds are easily being exposed to in the privacy of their bedrooms. I do also understand at the same time that parents throughout the generations have always worried and chances are that things will turn out alright.

While society is now more liberal than it was way back then, it is also more strict. While crude and vulgar images and more are easily accessible, social rights and the rules of political correctness are becoming more grounded. Also, the framework of parental controls and keystroke monitoring [and logs] are only a tick away, as well.

Communication is paramount with children - it is vital - they must be guided with good and fair values and not left on their own for the internet or social media to babysit and raise them into adulthood.

Growing up today seems to be a minefield of chance, where enticement seems to be on the rise, however outcomes and consequences can be more noteworthy still. Now more than ever before, it is extremely urgent to instill good, clean Christlike-minded values into young children as the information via the internet and on television becomes more unapologetic and 'in their face.'

My son is an adult now, however, in the past while he was growing up, when I had detected and identified transgressions, rather than descending into anger I used these situations as an opportunity to open his eyes to SEE and UNDERSTAND. When he was young, we were at the starting point or beginning crawl of the internet age when AOL and Myspace were "the must-be places" - pretty much the same how Twitter and Facebook are to us today.

Poking the penny of grown-up duty is necessary and is an obligation.

Adult responsibility cannot be put to the wayside and it cannot be allowed to slip - unless you would like to be face-to-face with the misfortune and terrible consequences of this neglect. Being lazy or careless with enforcing values into children is dangerous to their well being and the price for not doing so can be ----an absolute nightmare.

Discussing discernment, how to question everything, modesty, cleanliness, decency and what is right and wrong.

What is right has always been right, and what is wrong will always be wrong - [there is no "old fashioned" about it]----is a conversation that must be had with children while young and consistently enforced throughout their adolescence.

Teach children values of respect and integrity; Teach them about having a healthy sense of dignity. They will still do things we'd prefer they do not, of course - that is a part of growing up---we learn from our failures, trials and tribulations----and you can help as a parent or guardian to try to lesson the blow on those. When you instill good, solid values in them---you can know that eventually they're likely to return to the good, core values set that are at the heart of what is necessary for all personal, business, and social successes.

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